Ultimately, it is not necessary to purchase an engagement gift. If you do decide to purchase a gift, it doesn’t have to be anything expensive. A simple token of your excitement for the couple is all that is truly needed. This typically applies to close friends and family only.
What If I’m In the Wedding Party?
This is again, a personal preference. Contributing to the couple is expensive as a guest only. Add in all the responsibility that comes with standing beside them and that’s a lot of cash going out. Apparel, hair, makeup, bachelor, and bachelorette parties… the list goes on. Most couples understand and would prefer that you keep your money for the more vital parts. If you insist, keep it small.
Who Throws the Engagement Party?
Traditionally, the Bride’s parents would throw an engagement party if they wished. But these days it is common for close friends or other family members to throw the party. As a hostess, it would be wise to advise guests that gifts are unnecessary. This would set the tone and alleviate any confusion or pressure to do so. The Bride and Groom should never expect or assume gifts will be given at an engagement party.
For the Bride and Groom
You should never expect a gift at an engagement party, but when you receive one make sure to remember to send out a thank you card. Gifts small or large deserve a handwritten thank you note that shows your gratitude. Don’t forget that this applies to each gift throughout your wedding. Send the card out within the first couple weeks of receiving the gift. You’ll likely receive more gifts this year than you have or ever will again in your life. Be grateful and always keep it personal with the utmost sincerity.